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Wearing Scars Well

October 4, 2013


Growing up in boarding school, my peers used to undermine me because of my physique- I’ve always been small and petite. And because of that, no one would pick me to be on their team when we played. Even in class they would make fun of me and tease me. I was that odd kid who always did her own thing and it used to hurt me until I used that to my advantage. I decided then that instead of getting hurt by who doesn’t like me or who doesn’t choose me, I’m going to come up with my own games and my own rules. To many, I seemed lonely, but to me, I’d found a key to happiness. I learnt that all I needed to be happy was my permission. From then, I learnt to wear my scars well and accept that it’s OK for some people to not like me.

I believe we all have those things that reduce us to nothing; those things we are ashamed of about ourselves, those things we wish people didn’t know about us, those things we pretend we don’t suffer from when we meet new people; those things we wish God would take away; those things that make us feel small and insignificant. No matter how accomplished, how beautiful or how intelligent we are; one way or the other, there are things about us that the world has told us that we should feel bad about. For some of us it’s how we look, for some it’s how they walk or talk or who they are- and if you pay attention, these are usually things we can’t do anything about. Instead of hating yourself and allowing these things to reduce you, celebrate the things about you that the world doesn’t like. Give yourself permission to be happy without the things that the world dictates we need to be happy.
Be happy with your dark skin, be happy with your light skin, be happy whether you are tall or short; be happy with your thin self and happy with your voluptuous self, be happy with your lisp, be happy with who you are even if they criticize you. Be happy because you don’t deserve to go through life doubting yourself, be happy because you can’t go through life questioning your identity and needing the approval of people. Be happy, because you are deserving of happiness.

Think about it, the people who inspire us the most are the people who have faced great opposition. They are the people who have been rejected, been look down on and ridiculed- but they rose above all insults, rose above the mediocre of their circumstances to be people of value.
Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” Albert Einstein didn’t speak until age four and didn’t read until age seven. His teachers labeled him “slow” and “mentally handicapped.” Oprah Winfrey was fired from her television reporting job because they told her she wasn’t fit to be on screen. These people and many others have gone to make their mark in the world.

Remember that you are so much more than what people say about you. So don’t be ashamed of your imperfections, don’t hide your scars, instead, wear them with pride. You never know whose life you are changing in doing so.
As for me, I’m still small and petite, and loving it… who’s laughing now!

Love Always,
Nono Cele
Twitter: @Nono_Cele

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