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The Value of what you Have

July 27, 2013


It is no secret that families aren’t what they used to be, many households nowadays are without a mom or a dad or both. Sadly, we are growing up in a broken society where most children don’t know what it’s like to have both parents under the same roof. Even worse, some children don’t know what love looks like between a man and a woman, they have nothing to reference it to. However, growing up without both parents isn’t the only issue that needs our attention, I find that not much is said about the poison that is neglect.
When I visit schools to give my motivational talk, I meet children who were raised by both parents but are incredibly unhappy because they were not nourished with love, not given attention, not told they matter… Oh, the brokenness that is caused by neglect… You may be here, but you don’t see me, you don’t notice me, you don’t acknowledge me…

This got me thinking, we (especially black people) need to stop assuming that people we love know that we love them. We need to start telling our loved ones how we feel. We need to make time for our families, time for holidays, time to talk (without the interruption of BBM, WhatsApp, Twitter or Facebook).
We get so busy with things that don’t matter. We major on the minor…and before long, we lose our greatest support system because of the poison called neglect.
Loved ones get taken for granted, important dates get forgotten, important meetings get postponed, text messages get no reply, phone calls remain unreturned…all the while time passes by. Someone once said, No one ever gets tired of loving. But everyone gets tired of waiting, assuming, hearing promises, saying sorry and all the hurting.

The sad thing about us, human beings is that no matter how blessed we are, after a while, we stop seeing what we have. We get so obsessed with having more that it causes us to lose sight of how much we already have… and this attitude of wanting better, newer and faster robs us of a grateful spirit. This attitude of competitiveness prevents us from making an impact in our society, it only drives us to build walls between ourselves and those we view as less than us. We need to identify the devil amongst us. This desperation, this drive, this hunger to have more than others is not ambition, it’s not success, it’s not changing the world- it’s greed. It’s designed to make us feel superior at the expense of making others feel inferior.

Every once in a while, take a moment and appreciate where you are and what you have. In our pursuit for success and greatness, it is so easy to lose sight of what really matters, but I pray that God would give us eyes that not only look, but also see how blessed we truly are!

Love Always,
Nono Cele
Twitter: @Nono_Cele

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