We are now in the third month of 2013 and if you are anything like me, in this short amount of time, you have made mistakes. So, this is what we are going to do: we are going to let go of all the mistakes we have made and never look back. I admit, I have been very unkind to myself over the years, expecting myself to be without flaws and when I failed, I’d be very hard on myself, and that’s not healthy. This is the year to break that cycle. We all need to become our own biggest cheerleaders- flaws and all.
One of the biggest time wasters for us is regret- we spend far too much time dwelling on things we can no longer do anything about. We swim in the pool of regret and self-pity, our own thoughts of ‘not good enough’ torment us, and in so doing, we become our own worst enemy.
Imagine how far we would be in life if we decided right after we make a mistake that we are not going to allow a mistake to define us… If we dared to say, ‘I’m not going to carry this mistake with me.’
This is the year to be more than someone who made a mistake, it’s the year of being someone who is better for having made those mistakes. And one habit we can’t afford to feed this year is the habit of carrying an unnecessary load. I’m not suggesting that we must be irresponsible, I am merely pointing out that we need to stop beating ourselves up for making human mistakes. We can’t excel in life while carrying the past with us. The agony and strain caused by carrying that load will wear us down and in the long run, it will make us bitter, cold and unforgiving. Only people who hate themselves don’t forgive others and themselves.
And so we acknowledge, mistakes have been made (that’s part of life), apologize and move on. Let’s not waste another moment wallowing in self-pity and regret, we are better than that. Don’t let your faults fool you into thinking you can’t do better because you can.
May God grant you what took me well over 20years to find, the power to move on…