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Leaving A Bad Situation

November 24, 2012

Ever loved someone so much, but realized you couldn’t keep that person in your life anymore? I’ve had two of those. The kind of people you want to keep in your life desperately but you know you can’t because of the drama and pain that loving them entails.
The kind of love that simply drains you. Whether it’s a friend, family member or a lover, you can love and care for someone so much yet make each other incredibly unhappy…
Naturally, we go into denial, we pretend as if we don’t see that this toxic situation wasn’t meant to be. Until we can’t pretend anymore and grown up decisions must be made…and that’s difficult. Sometimes we have to protect ourselves from people we love. For the sake of our peace of mind and health, we must learn when enough is enough and let go…

Before the new year starts, we need to kiss some people in our lives goodbye. The kind of people who are hindering our growth, holding us back, hurting our self-esteem and our feelings. Some people you can love and forgive but have to live without. As we strive for better, we need to realize that our biggest responsibility is making decisions that are taking us to where we want to be. We are longer children, we need to accept that not everyone we love can stay in our lives. Some people cause more damage and harm by staying than they do by leaving.

I had someone in my life I loved dearly but that person constantly let me down. Certain habits started becoming a norm and I realized that I was sacrificing too much just for someone to stay in my life. It cost me too much to maintain that relationship, it wasn’t worth it anymore.
There are some habits and behaviors that can no longer be part of our lives and we must decide we can no longer tolerate them. And we need to stop making excuses for people in our lives who won’t change, who refuse to change, who see no need to change. It’s not OK for someone who is supposed to love you to be constantly rude and cruel, it’s not OK to constantly be criticized, it’s not OK to be constantly disappointed or let down, it’s not OK to put up with these things all in the name of love. Love is so much better than that (1 Corinthians 13).
At some point the apologies get tired and the rehearsed ‘It won’t happen again’ speeches mean nothing.

As much as we want love, no one should settle for the kind of love that is so cruel that it hurts most the object of its affection.
Don’t stay where you are not appreciated or valued. Realize that you deserve more. Set a higher standard for yourself.

Not everyone can go with us to the next level. And it’s OK to go alone.
Life must go on with or without some people… Go on and LIVE!

Love Always,
Nono Cele

Twitter: @Nono_Cele
Email: nono@nonocele.co.za

TWEETS THAT INSPIRE:

@TheSingleWoman: You can love someone…forgive them…want good things for them…but still move on without them.

@DzWashington: Sometimes removing some people out of your life makes room for better people.

@Dmstephen: Take a deep breath, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.

@Nono_Cele: Know when to let go, people who were once the wind beneath your wings can become a weight that drags you down.

@teracarissa: Stop accepting what you really don’t want. That’s not compromise but settling.

@imlikethecheese: Some relationships exist because people can’t stand the thought of being alone.

@MarilynMonroeID: If you can’t save the relationship, at least save your pride.

@Dmstephen: Hardest thing in life. – Letting go of what you thought was real.

@G_XCON: There can’t be love where there is no respect, obsession operates in a no respect zone but love, love needs respect.

@Nono_Cele: Just because your heart is broken doesn’t mean your life is over.

@PushieWatson: All I want for my life, is whatever God wants for my life. Nothing less, nothing more #ThatIsAll

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