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Choose Better

June 28, 2016
Wherever you find yourself, pray. God is with you. He hears you. He cares for you. He wants you to bless you.

Wherever you find yourself, pray. God is with you. He hears you. He cares for you. He wants to bless you.

There is so much to be said about the company we keep. Whoever we choose to surround ourselves with has an influence on us, good or bad. Some people come into our lives and build us, help us, inspire us, and elevate us. These people make us realize our own greatness just by the way they talk, the way they carry themselves, the way they think. Everything about them oozes hope, possibility and love. These are the people who deposit hope into us and help to dream big… And then, there’s another group of people who only take away. When we are around them, we feel deflated, uninspired, even small.

Although they mean well, some people in our lives rip our confidence into shreds because they always remind us of our past mistakes, and constantly dwell on the negative. Even though they care about us, somehow, they feed on our unhappiness. They are quick to say, “I told you so!” and they always expect the worst to happen… and when we are away from them, we secretly feel relieved. Now the question beckons, which group would your loved ones say you are in?


You will come across many different people in life but choose well. Choose people who will help you become a better version of yourself. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries, some will respect you for it; some will criticize you for it, but set your boundaries anyway. Delete numbers you no longer need. End relationships that are not going anywhere. Cut ties where there is constant negativity and drama. Don’t entertain friends who only want to update you on the latest gossip. Be bold enough to walk away from people who want you to remain “same old, same old”. Deliberately surround yourself with people who challenge you to be better. Be tough enough to listen to constructive criticism and smart enough to know the difference between hate and helpful advice. If you want to grow, it is compulsory that you learn to choose better.

We all want to be amazing. We all want to be successful, happy, and regarded as important, and one factor that will likely make or break our success: the people we surround ourselves with.


At tertiary, I was fairly popular and I thought life was about popularity. I soon learnt; it’s not about quantity, it’s about quality. What is the point of having a thousand (Facebook) friends if none of them are there when it matters most? What is the point of being surrounded by a crowd that only accepts you when you look good and shuns you when don’t fit the image they have of you? Even worse, what is the point of having a huge following if no one can honestly and lovingly confront you about your weaknesses so you can be better than you’ve ever been?

In my tertiary days, I learnt that I needed people around me who not only love me but also believe in me. People who can tell me the truth, in love. We need to get that right- I think some people are so focused on telling us the truth; they forget to say it in love. It is very difficult to learn from people who only criticize and ridicule you. We need to learn to correct people without crushing them.


The world is filled with passionate, inspiring, awesome people. It’s also filled with complainers, cheaters, freeloaders, and gossipmongers who will suck the life out of you if you let them. You have the power to choose which group to let in to your life. Better yet, you get to decide who you will be…!




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