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Believing in Me

September 8, 2012

How many times have we heard it being said that believing in yourself is key to success? Despite having heard that before, somehow that knowledge doesn’t inspire us and we go about our way the same way we always have, unchanged.
My goodness! In my mind, believing in ourselves should be the most natural thing for us to do yet we seem to be struggling to… 

Is it because believing in ourselves is associated with “pride”, “selfishness” and “arrogance”? Or worse, maybe the problem stems from a much bigger issue, perhaps we don’t like ourselves?
Most of us grew up in families where we were taught to celebrate everyone else but ourselves (and our parents called it humility, but at what cost?)

It’s time we started being kind to ourselves. And by that I mean, getting to know ourselves without the pressure of “fitting in”. It’s so sad that as young people we would rather be anyone but ourselves… It’s no wonder so many are in unhealthy relationships and friendships… Because we think being with ourselves is the worst thing that could happen to us. When did we become so cruel to ourselves?

Usually, it’s not what people say or do that hurts us most, it’s what we say (and believe) about ourselves; we are our own worst critics. We tell ourselves we’re too fat, too short, not smart enough, not beautiful enough… These thoughts are detrimental to our self esteem.
It’s time to get in the habit of celebrating ourselves. We should never be ugly to ourselves. It’s not arrogance nor is it pride, it’s self-love. People who don’t love themselves don’t believe in themselves. As a result, they settle for less in life. We must truly believe we are worthy of amazing things!

We need to go back to the basics of self-love and be good to ourselves. We care far too much what people think. On that path to self-discovery (and self-love), we need to seek our purpose. That assurance that we were born for a reason, a purpose. Once we discover our purpose, it will eliminate our need to compete and feelings of inadequacy will vanish because no one can beat us at the thing we were born to do.

With the four months left of 2012, we possess potential to do amazing things… let’s go for it! Ever so confident.

Nono Cele

Here is an inspiring quote by Marianne Williamson

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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