There is so much to be said about the company we keep. Whoever we choose to surround ourselves with has an influence on us, good or bad. Some people come into our lives and build us, help us, inspire us, elevate us. These people make us realize our own greatness just by the way they talk, the way they carry themselves, the way they think. Everything about them oozes hope, possibility and love. And some people only take away. When we are around them, we feel deflated, uninspired, even small.
Though they mean well, some people in our lives rip our confidence into shreds because they always remind us of our past mistakes, they constantly dwell on the negative things about the world and even though they care about us, somehow, they feed on our unhappiness.
This year, choose well, choose people who will help you become a better you. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries, some will respect you for it; some will criticize you for it, set your boundaries anyway. Delete numbers you no longer need. Don’t entertain friends who only want to update you on the latest gossip. Quit friends who want you to remain “same old, same old”. If you want to grow this year, choose better.
We all want to be amazing. We all want to be successful, happy, and regarded as important, and one factor that will likely make or break our success: the people we surround ourselves with.
At tertiary, I was fairly popular and I thought life was about popularity. I soon learnt; it’s not about quantity, it’s about quality. What is the point of having a thousand (Facebook) friends if none of them are there when it matters most? What is the point of being surrounded by a crowd that only accepts you when you look good and shuns you when don’t fit the image they have of you? Even worse, what is the point of having a huge following on Twitter if no one ever challenges you to be better?
I learnt that I needed people around me who not only love me but also believe in me. People who can tell me the truth, in love. We need to get that right- I think some people are so focused on telling us the truth; they forget to say it in love. It is very difficult to learn from people who only criticize and ridicule us. As I always say, correct me, without crushing me.
The world is filled with passionate, inspiring, awesome people. It’s also filled with complainers, cheaters, freeloaders, and gossipmongers who will suck the life out of you if you let them. You have the power to choose which group to let in to your life.
Don’t let this be ‘another’ new year, let 2014 be the year for a new YOU.